False Accusations Against a Spouse Can Lead to Losing Custody of Your Child
Often in divorce cases, the parties lose focus of the big picture and turn to a “win at all costs” strategy. As any attorney will tell you, this seldom, if ever, works out the way you think it will. This type of scorched earth policy tends to come out when fighting over custody of the children. A prime example of how this tactic can back fire is found in the case of Carnike v Kasson.
In the Kasson matter, the parties had one child. The parties divorced and the Court awarded joint physical custody as it was clear both parents were loving responsible people. The order directed the child moving from mother to father on a weekly basis. Right before the child, a little girl, was to start kindergarten, the wife made accusations that the father was sexually molesting the child, abusing alcohol and as a result of his job, rarely if ever home to take care of his daughter. As a result, she petitioned the family court to have physical custody granted to her with the father only having supervised visitation. Based on these accusations, father crossed moved for sole custody claiming that these accusations were only made to pull custody away from him and destroy any relationship he had with his daughter.
To warrant a modification of a pre-existing custodial arrangement, there must be sufficient evidence to support a change of circumstance reflecting a real need for a change in the order to continue the best interests of the child. Courts have held that starting school is enough to warrant a change in circumstance requiring the establishment of a residence for the child. Additionally, Courts have held that the lack any ability of the parties to communicate with each other concerning the needs of the child does not advance the best interests of the child and that it in itself is enough to establish a change in circumstances which may be enough for the Court to change the custodial arrangement. Had the wife in this case stopped at that, simply saying that her daughter was beginning school and having her change her residence every Saturday evening was not in the best interest of the child, this case might have been decided differently.
At the hearing, the evidence showed that despite being seen by six different doctors there was no evidence of sexual abuse. Additionally the court took note that there were no outstanding child protective service investigations nor any reports made by the mother to the police department. The Court found that the mother in this instance was purposely attempting to interfere with the father’s parental rights. Finally, despite the mother’s attempts to curtail visitation and custody, the father testified that he was willing to continue to promote the relationship between the mother and daughter. As a result, the Court granted the father full physical custody of his daughter. Unexplainably, the Court declined to grant sanctions against the ex-wife for her accusations and actions. This is the only part of the case that is surprising. One can only assume that after losing physical custody of her daughter the Court deemed sanctions as unduly “piling on.”
False accusations and parental alienation is the fastest way for you to lose physical custody of your child. Remember, divorce is hard enough for children to adapt to, the last thing they need is for you to ruin the relationship with your former spouse for no other reason that you are employing scorched earth tactic. The best interests of your child is always to have a loving relationship with both parents. It is imperative that you always foster such relationships and not interfere. While you may no longer wish to speak to your ex-spouse, for the sake of the children, until they are emancipated, you must have at least a cordial relationship where you can discuss your child’s up bring. It is to your peril if you are unable to keep such a relationship going.
If you’re facing such problems, call a an experienced divorce attorney at Divins & Divins, P.C. for your free consultation.